So, you are saying that everyone should just blindly believe every single accusation of abuse, or harassment?
No, but patterns are patterns, especially when the evidence is there for anyone with a shred of common sense and empathy-- oh wait, a lot of the evidence is hidden in request chains and behind privacy veils, so you have to "break the rules" to show anyone, and then you're just accused of fabricating it.
I have no doubt there were bitter bad actors who made shit up, but trust me, those with legitimate complaints are just as upset when that happens, because it de-legitimizes the many real issues.
It's easy to say you don't care but perhaps you care less. [...] Of course I understand the venting process as well
The point isn't that I don't care. I do, against all logic. The point was that I was fed up trying to change things. Every time I pushed back against something, made a suggestion, they shot me as the messenger-- and then months later would actually change things and never even acknowledge that I'd had a point, much less apologize for their behavior toward me and the frustration and pain they caused.
Now it's happening again (I suggested guidelines for discord bannings/mutings and now they're going to make rules, despite biting my head off with "absolutely not" at the time I suggested it) and so by "blew through my last fuck" I mean that I am done making suggestions or putting myself out there or being an actual part of the game because at this point even a full, genuine apology with no qualifiers would just be that; it wouldn't fix what was done to me over and over and over again. "You were right" would be nice to hear but it just won't matter.
Sometimes bridges are just irrevocably burnt. You devalue people's genuine desire to fix seemingly obvious problems, not for my sake, since the damage was already done, but for everyone's sake in the future, and then you act surprised pikachu face at the frustrated and demoralized reaction? THEN you say you want to fix things, and hey, it's nice to see that it was acknowledged I brought up the issues with Blaze, but was there an apology for not believing me? Was there acknowledgement that it WAS a real pattern of behavior? No.
You're right on the money about it being venting, yes. I was 100% venting. I was also letting them know, in my own way, that their repeated behavior and lack of contrition and genuine apology for it had blown any possible reparation to bits, in the hopes that maybe, just maybe, they'd take it as a learning experience and a warning as to what happens when you pull that shit, so MAYBE, just maybe, they won't repeat it toward others.
You had dedicated people who loved the game and wanted to see it thrive, who saw problems forming/happening, who tried to point them out, and then finally just had enough.
So yes, the nuking my response regarding Shalooonsh was the final straw. Yes, I still care. The concepts are not mutually exclusive. I just don't care enough to ever come back and stand on the firing range again.