Armaddict, the point is that though some actions are not explicitly against the rape/consent rules we have, they can be pretty shitty from an OOC standpoint. You and Desertman seem to be arguing that it isn't the case at all. I think it's an absurd argument so I made an absurd counterexample.
...I think I've put enough qualifiers in every post of mine to say confidently that I never asserted that this was not a problem. What I said was that the extreme, the complete evaporation of it, was an overreaction and that I saw no problems with reporting someone -after- you give them the heads up ooc, and that in some cases, there was likely some oversensitivity. I've played very sexually active characters. Some of them have been rough. Some have been romantic. I've never gone into it with a sense of entitlement of 'this is armageddon and that's how this will be'. I never played a rape plot, pre-rape-rule.
If someone being persistent is the problem, then that seems to be exactly fitting the criteria I laid out for an acceptable justification for a report. If someone is being overly assertive and targeting you hard with sexually -violent- behavior, or hinting at it, that would be acceptable justification by all the criteria I put up.
The only qualifier I put up was that in the case that you're upset that someone doesn't want to give up on a character's love interest, but isn't being particularly harsh about it, that's not the same thing. If someone is being sexually crude, but not targeting anyone in particular with it, particularly not someone who doesn't mind, then that's not the same thing. Again, I feel like I'm not saying anything archaic about it; I think women in particular very much know the distinction I'm trying to make. If these last two characteristics are what is being deemed as abusive, then that is what I'm referring to as oversensitive.
It is ruining my enjoyment of the game. My enjoyment shouldn't come at the cost of your enjoyment. If you have to flirt, and my character doesn't want to put up with it, leave me the Drov alone. There are other girls that don't care about it.
Again, I never said it should. However, this same statement works in reverse. Don't start asserting that everyone's character needs to walk around on eggshells (to mirror Skeelz's mention of 'how it feels') about saying sexual things in a rated MA (Mature Audiences) if you can't be mature about some people talking about different things than you might want to hear in any particular case. In those scenarios above, the lines of where OOC discussion becomes more prominent than IC integrity are pretty clearly outlined. You can agree or disagree with them, but I feel that they're in a very good medium point to the effect that you making the suggestion that I can't follow those lines would be overcompensating at the expense of the adult game I've been able to handle just fine. And that's with me, a completely straight man, being hit on by male PC's, sometimes even aggressively. I kept the game world in mind, kept it in stride, but made sure to make it clear it wasn't going to happen. Sometimes it persisted until they died, sometimes it didn't. But the guy playing a guy into men who had fixated on mine wasn't some sort of violence on my roleplaying game. It was something that I sometimes played with, sometimes ignored, and never took it as some dude deciding I shouldn't enjoy my game. I certainly could have thought of it that way though. And if they went to the point of going into homosexual sex acts playing out in my character's head, you can be sure they'd get reported.
That is my criteria here. If those aren't good for you, I'm going to shrug it off, and apologize that you sometimes have to be exposed to things you don't like, because I don't think those lines are unreasonable for the roleplaying game.