What does your half-elf do in the face of insult?

Started by Natterjack, March 23, 2014, 09:43:22 PM

I'm sure that "freak" or "abomination of nature" is in the mix. But "let the wookie win" still applies.
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abomination is a term heavily used for 'gickers in the north. Calling a non-'gicker breed this just doesn't fit.
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Tuluk has no trademark on the term abomination. If you want to call a half-elf, or anything, an "abomination of nature", you can. How you're interpreted will probably depend on who you're talking to.
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Quote from: Natterjack on March 23, 2014, 09:43:22 PM
@ all the half-elf players out there, when you encounter racism, how does your character react?

For whatever reason, I enjoy playing half-elves.

Typically, I have played two sorts of half-elves:

Those who know they are trash, so they just deal with it if someone is talking down to them and keep rolling, almost ignoring the person.
Those who get depressed by being put down, as if a reminder to who they are and then get in a funk about how nobody will ever love/want them.

Most of the half-elves I've played have been disguised as humans, but some people have figured it out or been told, etc.

March 26, 2014, 01:10:52 PM #29 Last Edit: March 26, 2014, 01:24:50 PM by Kalai
Desire to be accepted, desire to be independent, dash of elven pride, tempered by experience. Dash of elven trickery, dash of human shallowness.

Desire to be accepted + experience: Accept, don't speak up, agree, acknowledge, even join in, joke about it. Disparage own place in life, disparage elves with humans, humans with elves. Deal with the prejudice by rejecting yourself as well - I use my own early reaction to internalized misogyny as something of a model: hating girly things just because they were female-coded.
(A breed preferring human company might loathe thievery and be steadfastly meticulous in their dealings to prove beyond a doubt they are unelfy, while in other areas slipping a hand under the table and rationalizing it as not actually stealing, no one will miss it, no one will notice, just this one time to survive, they're just being smart or clever, the person deserved it, how am I going to do my job otherwise, hmm honestly that was a really neat and clever way for that elf to steal from me wait no oh god why do I love this so much.)

Desire to be independent+elven pride: Hate it. Hate it with a burning fiery passion, say nothing, bear a grudge, prove them wrong. Everyone thinks you're worse than them, but damn it, you're smarter than any roundear, and you're not a shiftless parasite like those thieving neckers. It's understandable that they'd associate you with the verminous qualities of your other half - but truth is you're better than both of them, and you're goddamn well going to be the best, because you've got to prove yourself against the worst expectations. You don't need their approval, and they must be in bed with Whira to have gotten yours.

Trickery+shallowness: Use it to your advantage to manipulate everyone, including friends and family. Be underestimated. Be discounted. Overpay without complaining, acknowledge the superiority of those around you, know your place, massage egos. Secretly fix the game and watch with glee as your goals are accomplished with no one even suspecting your influence, because what could a breed do anyway?

Might also be some trauma reaction depending on how close to home the insult hits, breed's background, how well or poorly they've dealt with the situation previously ... breed who's taken a beating for mouthing off is going to have more issues than one who learned earlier and less painfully how to keep themselves relatively safe.

I've played numerous breeds and they vary from character to character as have my half-giant, humans, elves, I think I even had a dwarf once. Was never able to play a halfling, mantis, gith, or mul though.

I'm played half-elves that were half-elf coded and ones that were human coded. I've played ones that didn't know they were half-elves and ones that did. There's a wide scope of what you can do with half-elves. Though they all are crazy in some manner or another, no matter how hard they try to hide it or they all have bad experiences. They all want to be accepted and loved. They all get scared when they are accepted and loved. There's something internal regardless of their knowledge that makes them this way because of the mixing of the blood of humans and elves... At least this is how I interpret the help documents. It also all depends on how you want to play it on how easily it will be for others to detect things. Can make it slight and private or can make it right in everyone's face about how breedy they are.

But regardless half-elves are pretty much at the bottom of the barrel in the society structure no matter where you're playing.
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I have to go with the your PC making fun of themselves part of it. While I've received criticism (your breed wants to be accepted and reminding everyone your breed is a breed is counter-productive), I've found it the best way to diffuse the situation, especially if it gets a laugh. It's hard to make fun of someone very well if they've just ceased the upper hand by coming up with a better slight than you can, and it satisfies that sense of elven superiority your breed might or might not have lurking under the surface. The worst you can expect is someone just scoffing and shaking their head. Another method is to just withdraw, maybe you were having a pleasant and productive conversation before the bad stuff starts, and people will learn, hey, if I want to get something out of this fellow maybe I should wait until I've ripped him off for his goods -before- I start with the insults. As with anything, make yourself useful enough and people just may stop altogether, may.

Then when they stop making fun of you, or worse, praise you, you don't know how to handle it and breed out on their ass and send everything back to what it was. Why are they being so nice? They must be plotting something. I'll show them! I'm no idiot! Good old fashioned elven paranoia (not so unhealthy, despite what it looks like at first glance). The most important thing to keep in mind is that all other PCs think you're trash no matter what they may say or do, if they're being mean then all is normal, if nice then something is up. How your PC reacts is largely up to you, but if you react improperly, above your PC's station, you can expect something bad to happen. It's a fun and delicate balancing act that keeps things exciting.

All that said, I think breeds are, hands down, the best, codedly and mentality-wise to play, but that's just a personal preference, and I'm a hapless newb.
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March 26, 2014, 03:36:04 PM #32 Last Edit: March 26, 2014, 03:41:09 PM by Desertman
Just chiming in to say it always bothers me to see the half-elves with the "inherited" elven superiority complex.

Elves do not gain this superiority complex due to the fact they have magic elven blood that forces them to have this trait. They gain it due to the fact most elves have grown up with other elves (almost all are tribal, even in the city) who have taught them that elves are "better" than roundears and breeds. This is not a genetic trait. It is a learned personality trait. It can not be passed genetically on to half-elves from elven parents.

Elves who were not raised by other elves may not even posses this trait due to this.

This reminds me of the half-elf I once saw who roleplayed he didn't know he was a half-elf, and then heard an elf speaking allundean and was all like, "Oh no, why do I understand allundean? Does this mean I am a half-elf?"

I couldn't even bring myself to OOC to this player that you don't gain magic languages just by having elf blood in your veins. I would assume you don't gain magic personality traits by having elf blood either. It is the affects of being raised in elven culture that give you elven personality traits.

The reason breeds are "emo" and emotionally "broken" isn't because this trait is a magic property of half-elven blood, it is a reflection of how they have grown up in the world of Zalanthas and the affects that racist society has had on them.

It would be completely possible, in theory, if you could get it approved, to play a half-elf who was raised in a tribe completely cut off from society that never experienced any sort of racism typical in Zalanthas and thus they would not have any emotional problems. (They would almost surely gain them if they ever left their secluded tribe and were exposed to the typical racist Zalanthan cultures though.) You don't gain personality traits on pc's due to genetics, you gain them due to typical cultural influences based on growing up in the world of Zalanthas.


If I am wrong, staff, please feel free to let me know. But I have always played it this way.

Edited to Add:

There could possibly be an exception to the rule in regards to dwarves and their foci. But that does seem almost supernatural in nature, and could have nothing to do with genetic inheritance and could instead be a product of the nature of the existence of dwarves.

The more I think about that, I realize the existence of dwarf foci could mean I may have just shit all over my entire logic-chain in this post.
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Yup. This reminds me of a particular tidbit from the half elf helpfile.

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Half-elves are somewhat solitary types, and many spend most of their time out in the desert. They are rumoured to have a special rapport with beasts of all kinds, but whether this is true or not, or if it is due to something innate in their nature or simply because they spend a lot of time with their mounts, is a matter of light debate.

I would also argue the nurture side of the debate, especially when it comes to language.  :P

Quote from: Drayab on March 26, 2014, 03:46:50 PM
Yup. This reminds me of a particular tidbit from the half elf helpfile.

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Half-elves are somewhat solitary types, and many spend most of their time out in the desert. They are rumoured to have a special rapport with beasts of all kinds, but whether this is true or not, or if it is due to something innate in their nature or simply because they spend a lot of time with their mounts, is a matter of light debate.

I would also argue the nurture side of the debate, especially when it comes to language.  :P

The whole dwarven focus thing really just throws my entire logic chain for a loop here.

If I find out I've been writing my backgrounds on my half-elves to fit their starting languages/skills/abilities this entire time and I could have just said, "Herp derp, they got the magic half-elf blood so no explanation needed for their abilities and personalities.", I am going to be less than pleased.
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Definitely figure out a reason why your half-breed knows what they know. Or have allundean removed.

It'd be nice if there was an option to choose between sirihish or allundean as your primary starting language.

On topic - half-elves are hard to do right. Playing a half-elf very well can be an emotionally draining experience. Never allow them to be happy.

If you have a happy half-elf something is wrong. Even if they achieve everything they ever wanted (or thought they wanted) they should not be happy. There should be an empty place that can't ever be filled. Something is still wrong. Something is still missing. They're never good enough.

Half-elves that react with bravado to insults is theoretically possible but feels jarring. This is a downtrodden race that is used to being treated like shit.

Half-elves are genetically predispositioned to the acceptance/independent tango, but that is the only thing the docs specify as an inherited personality trait.

Quote from: Delirium on March 26, 2014, 04:15:15 PM

If you have a happy half-elf something is wrong. Even if they achieve everything they ever wanted (or thought they wanted) they should not be happy. There should be an empty place that can't ever be filled. Something is still wrong. Something is still missing. They're never good enough.


You just described my day to day existence IRL.
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Half-elves are exposed to elven culture and may embrace parts of it. See: (Half) knowing the Allundean language. (Genetically learning a language is pretty silly.)

Though for nature vs nurture, let me ask this: Would an elf raised completely outside of the influence of other elves be willing to ride (mounts/wagons/etc)? This behavioral trade is explicitly a derivative of pride in their abilities; consequently, if your answer is 'no, they would not', then there is at least some component of their racial pride that is nature. Furthermore, the fact every tribe has this behavior, when elven tribes are highly distinct from and often not on good terms with each other, is fairly compelling.

Regardless, half-elves do have an element of pride explicitly stated in their racial docs, a pride in self-reliance. This is a result of their treatment, but there's no reason for it to mean they accept they are worthless. Certain parts may be internalized, but the typical half-elven reaction to abuse is to pursue independence and prove they don't need their detractors in the first place - then when the pendulum shifts back towards wanting acceptance, to go out of their way and into danger to prove they are in fact worthwhile parts of society.

It's this tension that makes half-elves quite interesting: They have no identity, but they crave it. They are rejected, so they reject others more - may be the misanthropes racist against both their parent races, convinced they are the only sane man in the world. They are abused, and driven to prove themselves for it. They are hurt, often, to the point any friendly word is mistrusted. They see slight and insult where there may have been none meant.

If you're a half-elf who's grown up in civilization, you're treated like trash. You're used to it, expect it, and if the documentation is to be believed, are often angered and hurt by it. Humans think of you as untrustworthy filth, neckers think of you as weak and tribeless - easy victims, in other words. It's had a profound effect on your personality. Driven you to become self-reliant, given you a craving for acceptance, but forced you to reject others before they reject you, just to survive.

Interpretation is very individual for a group with no culture of its own ... maybe it hurts like krath, to the point you get nervous breakdowns interacting with others, and consequently flee a social situation that becomes too intense. Maybe there's a bitter acceptance, brooding anger, that occasionally explodes at the expense of your meager possessions or fellow downtrodden room-mates. Maybe you see it as a challenge, striving to survive and prove yourself with pride and confidence.

Quote from: Delirium on March 26, 2014, 04:15:15 PM
On topic - half-elves are hard to do right. Playing a half-elf very well can be an emotionally draining experience. Never allow them to be happy.

If you have a happy half-elf something is wrong. Even if they achieve everything they ever wanted (or thought they wanted) they should not be happy. There should be an empty place that can't ever be filled. Something is still wrong. Something is still missing. They're never good enough.

Heh ... think you might be describing the human condition there...

There's no real reason half-elves can't be happy, and achieving everything you ever wanted isn't the key to happiness in the first place, nor does happiness mean fulfillment. Half-elves do not have racial chronic depression. They have racial trauma, and this impacts them severely, and can cause unhappiness and lack of fulfillment ... or drop someone down into depression ...

... but happiness isn't a binary state. A mind's more complex than 'content / discontent'. A half-elf who's just achieved something amazing and can't wait to share it with everyone? They might be on top of the world, even if the natural result of sharing it is ridicule, compliments mistrusted and hence withdrawn from, and generally a drop in mood. A half-elf alone with their mount, not having to deal with issues of prejudice and acceptance, but not quite alone? They might be in a rare moment of peace, and have no weight on their mind at the time.

Would say, a half-elf can be happy. What they aren't, is long satisfied. The sense of something missing is a good one ... a human one too, but that just makes it a fair reference for us.

March 26, 2014, 05:15:19 PM #40 Last Edit: March 26, 2014, 05:21:18 PM by Desertman
Quote from: Kalai on March 26, 2014, 04:49:54 PM

Though for nature vs nurture, let me ask this: Would an elf raised completely outside of the influence of other elves be willing to ride (mounts/wagons/etc)?

They absolutely would. If they were raised/brainwashed to believe riding mounts was fine from birth and never heard anything to the contrary, they would ride mounts. The real question is, would staff approve the concept for actual play? Hmm. Almost certainly not, simply because it would be too jarring and this is a game that depends on a fair amount of environmental control.

A played a half-elven child once who was raised by desert elves. He looked elven enough to pass as an elf, and his mother was ashamed she kanked a roundear. It was commonly accepted that my halfbreed was "sick" and couldn't "run", so he was allowed by his tribe to ride a mount, even though he truly believed and his entire tribe (with the exception of his skank mom) truly believed he was an elf.

This is pretty compelling evidence that elves taught to accept riding is "ok" will in fact accept that riding is "ok". It just isn't a widely approved, if almost never concept.
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Rare moments of contentment or happiness, sure. But I don't see it lasting, and I see it being inevitably poisoned by the ever present qualifier: "for a half-elf."  That emotional imbalance and independance/neediness should always flavor your PCs behaviors and thoughts no matter what. Otherwise you're more or less playing a human with insecurity issues and higher wis/agi stats.

I generally agree with D-man, however, I am of the opinion that elven mindset is borderline (if not fully) psychopathic and as such, having superiority complex is part of the package. Ask any elf what tribe is the best in the whole world and it will be his tribe, even if they survive by eating from garbage piles.

March 26, 2014, 06:28:55 PM #43 Last Edit: March 26, 2014, 06:33:28 PM by Jeax
As for a half-elf being happy or content, I think they can be happy or content, but they should not ever be comfortable in their skin beyond just this kind of feeling of "ah, I could live like this." sort of feeling I think. For this, places like Luir's Outpost or Red Storm come to mind...or just living out in the wilds by themselves. Possibly even a magicker that primarily hangs out by themselves in a temple. But in any setting (even completely alone) you are going to be reminded of why you are in your circumstances, and that's because nobody wants you. I would say that a half-elf should never be proud of themselves.

Quote from: spicemustflow on March 26, 2014, 06:03:50 PM
I generally agree with D-man, however, I am of the opinion that elven mindset is borderline (if not fully) psychopathic and as such, having superiority complex is part of the package.

I do not think they are psychopathic...that means they have no impulse control along with a myriad of other things. This is not the case with elves. They are proud, yes, of their tribe, and of themselves, usually, too. But this would not necessarily extend to a half-elf. Especially since a half-elf even if raised in an elven tribe, would not be allowed to partake in the tribal pride, so they would constantly feel like the odd man out.

And I guess to add to this, the only way a half-elf could feel these ways was if they passed as a human or an elf...but as soon as that cover was blown, this would all be shattered. And inside, they would know that they were faking, even if people did not realize it. So again, probably not allowed to be too proud of themselves.

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Quote from: spicemustflow on March 26, 2014, 06:03:50 PM
I generally agree with D-man, however, I am of the opinion that elven mindset is borderline (if not fully) psychopathic and as such, having superiority complex is part of the package.

I do not think they are psychopathic...that means they have no impulse control along with a myriad of other things. This is not the case with elves. They are proud, yes, of their tribe, and of themselves, usually, too.

Well, one does not need to tick every box in the psycho list to qualify. Elves do exhibit that myriad of other things, such as seeing outsiders as lesser beings (or even objects), extreme thrill seeking behavior, grandiose sense of self etc. I do think they have worse problem with impulse control than many other races.

Now, which of those traits are passed to a particular breed is difficult to say, especially considering that breeds don't live in cultures that encourage and praise such behaviors.

Quote from: Jeax on March 26, 2014, 06:28:55 PMI would say that a half-elf should never be proud of themselves.
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So again, probably not allowed to be too proud of themselves.

Docs do say otherwise:
"...half-elves tend to be extremely self-reliant, and they pride themselves on this trait."
"...But with the short-term goal met, the need for acceptance will kick in. The half-elf will return to society, fresh with the tales and fruits of their labor. At this point, they will do anything to make others appreciate what they have done."

A given half-elf is likely enough to be an insistent braggart who thinks he's above relying on anyone else. Compensating for insecurities, sure, but legitimately proud, yeah.  ;)

Quote from: Desertman on March 24, 2014, 02:13:11 PM
The extremely self-sufficient and prideful half-elf who cuts off the feet of anyone who even tries to kick them. They understand they are abominations, but, you better believe abominations can swing swords too, and in their case, you better respect that fact. You don't have to respect them, but you will respect their abilities. (Played this one several times.)

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March 30, 2014, 10:55:18 AM #48 Last Edit: March 30, 2014, 01:23:31 PM by Harmless
The union of a human and an elf is an unlikely thing, which is only made more likely by negative circumstances, such as desperate whoring, rape, or worse.

Although half-breeds are people, sort of, the topic of where they came from, who they really are, should, from time to time, disgust ANYONE. That includes the half-breed themselves, their closest friends, and if the even more unlikely were to occur, their lovers.

The topic of what a half-breed is should arise pretty frequently. It should be hard to forget about a half-breed's heritage. It should be only a little easier if the half-breed looks fully human or fully elven.

Therefore, most everybody should be disgusted by the presence of half-elves, frequently. This doesn't mean it should destroy existing friendships, or that bonds can't be formed over and above that fact, but the fact that a half-breed is, in fact, a half-breed, that is, someone who never should have existed, someone who will inevitably always suffer for being what they are (and often, inadvertently bring that suffering to their closest loved ones as well), and someone who will likely fail at being either human or elven and can therefore never fully be either, should constantly come into play and influence their decisions and interactions.

The effect of their race should be to instill some kind of emotional reaction. Hate is one. But so is sorrow, pity, evoked loneliness, fear, distrust, disgust, and so on. The emotion should be negative, at least in part. If someone were to love a half-elf, then they should have love tinged with one of the above. If someone were to love a half-elf BECAUSE they are a half elf, then that person would be seen as completely mad.
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Quote from: Harmless on March 30, 2014, 10:55:18 AM
If someone were to love a half-elf BECAUSE they are a half elf that that person is mad a degenerate and all his/her human/elf friends should kill the breed and him/her for their slight.


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