You'll probably want to disregard what I say Delerak, and this isn't a criticism of you, but just my take on what little I've seen and what your saying.
It sounds like you like a certain type of roleplaying and would like more people to be like that (see your distaste for how raiders raid for example). Nothing wrong with that, but when they don't roleplay the way you want, you shouldn't start assuming they're not roleplaying well.
You said the example of in a clan 99% of the people like each other. Well the Byn is a prime example of a ton of IC conflict. There's A TON of bickering, and I've heard of times when it's gone to killing as well. Another example is when I've been in clans. I'll hate or dislike certain people _a lot_ but when I'm around them I'll be civil and when people talk about them I'll keep my mouth shut (although I
might warn my employer of my feelings and why I have them). So people might have thought that I liked the guy(s), when I really didn't. This sounds like you only see part of the roleplay and think you see the full picture. NO MATTER WHAT, your always only seeing part of the roleplay. Even if you spend every IG minute with the person, because there's the think command.
You said you want raiders to have more conflict while raiding. Well that would seem like a life and death situation to me, and would become MUCH more life and death if they started bickering. Now you might of been in a Imm-ran raider clan and there was no bickering. But IIRC I remember quite a few saying how much they love the in-clan bickering. *shrug*
You also said how you hate how people don't make PCs JUST to stir up trouble. Well, I don't think a couple of people doing that (when done right) is bad, but when EVERYONE does it, then it turns into total anarchy.
I enjoy playing "robot-like" characters when it comes to nobles. But everytime I have done that, I've given the character exceptional circumstances. Also, I imagine servants, when trained properly, would be "robot-like" to their employer. Nobles ARE better then us measley commoners, so I interpret that to mean we obey OUR employers. Now does that mean everyone has to play like that? Nope, it'd be boring if everyone did, but I think it's fine for some too (know you weren't criticising AC, just thought I'd offer my opinion though

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IMO if everyone RP'd a certain way, it'd get boring.
None of that was a criticism or an attack against anyone, just my take on some things, that's all.